When You Feel the Loneliness of Motherhood
Loneliness…we’ve all experienced it at one point or another on our journey through motherhood. We can feel lonely when we are new moms, overwhelmed by all of the responsibilities that come with a new baby. It can be lonely when our little ones need most of our time and attention, when our husbands are working long hours, or when we can’t seem to find to time to connect with our friends.
This past year, my husband’s career landed us in a new city, four hours from our family and friends. I went from being a full-time classroom teacher, to a full-time stay at home mom. Although I’ve loved the opportunity to be home with my children, I have found myself in a very lonely place. I miss my colleagues, my friends and family, and I’ve struggled to find my purpose outside of caring for my family and my home. I am an introvert by nature, so reaching out and making new friends has been difficult for me. Slowly but surely though, I’ve learned some strategies to help me cope with loneliness. If you find yourself in a lonely place, keep reading! You can use these same actions.
The best way to combat loneliness is to get connected with others. If possible, find groups in your community or local churches to join so that you can have face to face interactions with other moms. Of course there are times when the demands of motherhood overshadows any possibility of socializing outside of the home. It’s during these seasons that connecting on social media can be beneficial. There are so many online groups where you can vent, get advice and encouragement when you need it. Although they do not replace communicating with others in person, they are a great option for feeling connected to other moms who knows exactly what you are going through
Community Mom Groups
Finding groups specifically for moms is a great way to meet new people who can relate to the ups and downs of motherhood. One group I am particularly fond of is MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers). They connect moms all over the world, and there is a good chance there is already a MOPS group in your community. You can also choose to start your own. You can find more information about MOPS here. Another great place to find mommy groups are local churches. Many of them have small groups/Bible studies that provide teachings and encouragement just for moms. Church websites usually offer information about the types of programs they offer.
Facebook “mommy” groups
It seems there are challenging situations that come with each new stage of being a parent. You can find online communities specific to your current season of motherhood and get unbiased opinions and advice for whatever you need. It can be so encouraging and comforting to find that so many other mamas have dealt with exactly the same things you are facing. If you haven’t already, I encourage you to search for mommy groups on Facebook and find one that fits your current needs. You can also join my Facebook page here.
Other online communities you can join are mommy blogs. Like Facebook groups, there are many blogs out there with specific audiences they would like to reach and you can find those that have great content and discussions focused on topics that speak to you and your current circumstances. A lot of blogs also have free resources that can make your day-to-day life as a momma a little easier, including organization tips, easy recipe ideas, and much more. I would love for you to join my community! You can do so at the bottom of this post.
Join a Club
Another way to combat loneliness is to join a club. Think about the hobbies you enjoy and find a club related to that hobby. If you like to read, join a book club. If you enjoy scrapbooking, sewing, or crafting, find a group specific to that niche. And if there are none in your community that interest you, consider starting your own. You can also look for clubs based on new hobbies you would like to try. Succeeding at things you’ve never done before can boost your confidence and connect you with people you may not have met otherwise.
When You Still Feel Lonely
Sometimes, loneliness goes beyond the need to be connected. Sometimes, it is an issue of the heart. Maybe you’ve been hurt in the past and find it difficult to get close to others, afraid to be hurt again. Maybe you are dealing with a silent illness, such as depression or anxiety, and you are reluctant to open up, afraid you will be judged or misunderstood and rejected. When you feel like you don’t measure up or don’t belong, it’s time to look to the One who created you. A deep, meaningful relationship with God can feel the emptiness and loneliness in your soul like no one else.
Here are some of my favorite scriptures I like to quote when I’m in a tough situation, or when I’m feeling lonely or discouraged:
6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things (Philippians 4:6-8). The entire chapter of Psalm 91 is also a favorite.
If we can remember to pray instead of complain, and to think on the positives in our lives and be grateful for what is going right, our entire perspective can change, and we can find peace no matter what challenges come our way.
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